7 Questions I Always Get Asked Because I Work with Sex Toys
If there’s one thing I’ve learned working in the sex toy industry, it’s that people are fascinated by what I do. The moment they find out I work with vibrators, BDSM gear, and all sorts of pleasure products, the questions come pouring in. It’s like I just revealed I’m secretly a magician and they need to know how I pull rabbits out of hats.
I totally get it—sex toys aren’t exactly what you’d expect to find on someone’s LinkedIn profile. So, here’s a rundown of some of the most common, funny, and sometimes awkward questions I get. I’ll be answering these in the same way I would if we were chatting over a cup of coffee—or maybe something a little stronger, depending on how spicy the questions get. 😉
1. “What sex toys have you tried? How many?”
Ah, the classic “how many?” question. People I just met love to ask me this—probably because they’re trying to imagine the sheer number of devices in my possession. Well, I’m not about to spill my entire collection here (I’ve got to keep some secrets, right?), but yes, I’ve tried a lot of toys.
Since I’ve been in the industry for over a decade, I’ve had the chance to experiment with all kinds of products. When I first started, I was curious to try different toys and how they would work.
But over time, it became less about trying toys on the market and more about understanding what makes each one special. So yeah, I don’t think I can put a number on it—somewhere between “a few too many” and “who’s counting, anyway? haha”
2. “What do your parents think about you working with sex toys?”
Oof, this one! People always want to know what my family thinks. I mean, who wouldn’t be curious about that, right? When I first told my parents, I could see the color drain from their faces for a second. My mom just sort of froze and gave me this look like, “Really? This is what you’re doing with your life?”
But honestly, after the initial shock, they warmed up pretty quickly. Nowadays, they’re incredibly supportive and think it’s fun. My mom even loves to joke about it now. If we’re at a family gathering and someone new asks what I do, she’ll just casually drop, “Oh, my child works with sex toys! Isn’t that fascinating?” It’s like she gets a kick out of people’s reactions. 😂
I think it’s also because they saw how passionate I became about the industry and how much potential there was in it. It’s not just about selling vibrators or dildos—it’s about helping people have better, more fulfilling experiences. So yeah, it’s been a journey, but now they see it for what it is: a legit business with a lot of heart.
3. “Are there crazy parties at the industry events?”
Okay, I get it. When people think about the adult industry, they might imagine some wild, hedonistic parties with people getting up to all sorts of stuff. And yeah, it’s definitely different from your typical corporate conference.
Events like trade shows and product launches have a unique vibe, and sure, there’s a fair share of eye-catching displays (think gigantic dildos and human-sized cages). But they’re not nearly as crazy as people think—at least not in my experience. Maybe I’ve just been in the industry too long, but I find it all pretty normal now.
There are parties, of course, but they’re often more focused on networking and having a good time. You’ll find people discussing new product designs, talking business, and sharing a few drinks. I think the craziest thing I’ve seen was someone walking around with a remote-controlled plug-in that they were letting other attendees take turns controlling. Definitely different, but hey, it’s all in good fun!
4. “What’s your favorite toy?”
This question is a bit like asking a parent to pick their favorite child. It’s not easy to choose, and the answer can change depending on the mood or occasion.
But if I had to pick one, I’d probably say remote-controlled or app-controlled toys. There’s something about the interaction and control that really takes things to another level. It’s not just about personal pleasure—these toys can totally change the dynamic between partners. Whether you’re using them together in the same room or trying them out during a long-distance relationship, it’s like adding a little secret thrill to the mix. Plus, I find them a bit more playful, and they tend to get people more involved and excited.
That being said, every toy has its own charm. From discreet, travel-friendly vibes to BDSM accessories that add a bit of edge, it really depends on what you’re in the mood for. I could talk about this for days, so let’s move on before I get too carried away!
5. “What do you think is the most insane toy out there?”
Oh boy, there are some wild toys out there. I’m talking giant dildos that look like they belong in an art museum, not a bedroom. Or the kinds of butt plugs that are so massive you have to wonder, “How is this even physically possible?”
One of the craziest things I’ve come across has to be the electric toys that send mild currents to heighten sensation. And then there are all the fantasy toys—tentacles, dragon-shaped dildos, and so on. It’s amazing to see the creativity, even if I have to take a step back and wonder about the process of coming up with these ideas!
6. “How did you get into the sex toy business?”
I get this question almost as soon as people find out what I do. It’s like everyone needs to know the backstory of how someone ends up in this industry. Well, it’s not as scandalous as you might think.
I was 22 when I got the opportunity to become a co-owner of a sex shop. I was at that age where I was ready to take a risk, and this seemed like a fascinating opportunity. So I thought, “Why not?” And I’ve been in the industry ever since—moving from running a physical store to focusing on online retail and now blogging about toys and reviewing products.
It’s been a wild ride with a lot of learning curves, but I’ve stuck around because I genuinely love it. I get to see the latest innovations, help people find products that work for them, and break down the stigmas around sex and pleasure. Plus, it makes for some great dinner party conversation.
7. “Do you ever get tired of talking about sex toys?”
Believe it or not, sometimes I do. As much as I enjoy this line of work, there are days when I just want to talk about something completely different. Like, you know, maybe politics or gardening—something that’s far away from vibrating silicone and kinky gear.
But at the end of the day, I feel lucky to do what I do. It’s not just about selling products; it’s about helping people understand themselves better, feel more comfortable with their bodies, and have better sex lives. So yeah, even when I need a break, I always come back to it with a sense of curiosity and excitement.
Closing Thoughts
So, there you have it—the top questions I get asked all the time because I work with sex toys. If you’ve got one of your own that I didn’t cover, drop it in the comments! I’m always up for a good Q&A session, whether it’s face-to-face or online.
And remember: It’s all about having fun, being open-minded, and enjoying the ride (pun totally intended). 😜
Cheers! ✨
